Like, I get wanting to fit in and feel socially accepted and all, but why must we assimilate in order to be accepted?

wanderlustprince:

In regards to passing, I do not want to change who I am to feel more like a guy.

I AM a guy. I do not need anyone else to tell me how to be what I am.

I AM who I am.

I AM what I am.

If folks do not want to accept me for being a genderqueer trans* guy, I do not want their acceptance. I do not want their blessing or approval.

I am a proud genderfuck. I do not want to change a thing about myself to make OTHERS more comfortable with my appearance, behaviour, etc.

Fuck assimilation.

Fuck heteronormativity.

Fuck gender-conformity.

Why should anyone have to do that?

EDIT: I realise that some folks strive to pass for safety and self-acceptance. To each their own. You feelings are valid. I am raising these questions, because I am genuinely curious about why these things exist - the gender binary, social constructs of beauty and gender, etc.

I have my own battles with my gender presentation daily. For a long time, I stressed passing until I questioned why it was so important to me. I truly want to hear/read from everyone else’s point of view. Please do not think that I am guilting anyone here.

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  2. cutebunnygirl answered: I have a response to this that might be a very cool insight.
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  4. thatbruisedpeach answered: gender binary, social constructs of beauty etc… from my perspective it’s majorly controlled by what media shows. “false image ideals”
  5. mightybearfalconlives answered: Not guilting so much as letting your privilege show. It’s easy when you DON’T have huge breast and DON’T pass to say these things, you know?
  6. fuck-youmoffat answered: I used to try so hard just to fit in. One day I stopped caring and I stopped trying. I’m so much happier. Screw what everyone else thinks! :)
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    I’m going to reblog because this response may get long, besides I refuse to conform to a character limit :P In all...
  11. agender-queer answered: You’re my inspiration.
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  15. doomsdame88 reblogged this from riley-ferretboy-konor and added:
    Same goes for Queer people in general.
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