Header by Rosa Middleton
BUTCH PLEASE is all about a butch and her adventures in queer masculinity, with dabblings in such topics as gender roles, boy briefs, and aftershave.
Rigid gender roles are irritating to many of us, damaging to society at large (whether people know it or not), and absolutely toxic to gender nonconforming children and their families.
Gender =/= gender roles
Gender non conforming =/= non binary
Crushing the binary =/= being trans
Dysphoria =/= hating your body
While these things aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive, they should not be considered synonymous.
An 8-year-old cisgender girl has been pulled from her local Christian school after being told she acts too much like a boy.
When gay men badger other gay men because of socially constructed ideals about how a man is supposed to act, when our position in the bedroom becomes a foundation for establishing gender roles, what we’re doing is protecting and promoting misogyny and sexism.
Notes: Published in Queering Anarchism: Essays on Gender, Power, and Desire edited by C.B. Daring, J. Rogue, Deric Shannon, and Abbey Volcano, published by AK Press, 2012
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The girls’ section was a pink bubble. The themes: fashion, cooking and cleaning. The promotional words on the packages were fun and frivolous. In contrast, the toys meant for boys communicated leadership, command, speed, agility, skill, might and success. I got the message then and there.
This is a Venn diagram.
OH LOOK THERE’S NO OVERLAP
The Test Shot presents Irreverent Dance, an innovative, body positive and LGBT-friendly dance project based in London. Founded by Amanda Jones in 2012, Irreverent Dance has brought a range of dance styles to the lives of adults who “don’t know their bar from their barre”. The Test Shot spent a morning with Irreverent Dance, talking about gender roles in ballet and the ways in which the class seeks to subvert them. Irreverent Dance aims to create a space for people of all genders, ethnicities and body shapes to learn to dance without pressure from society’s expectations of how our bodies should be.
needs more brown people
but i love this idea so much
Golden Boy, a new novel about an intersex teenager, is quickly becoming a critics’ favorite. We chatted with its young author, Abigail Tarttelin, about the issues it addresses
In regards to passing, I do not want to change who I am to feel more like a guy.
I AM a guy. I do not need anyone else to tell me how to be what I am.
I AM who I am.
I AM what I am.
If folks do not want to accept me for being a genderqueer trans* guy, I do not want their acceptance. I do not want their blessing or approval.
I am a proud genderfuck. I do not want to change a thing about myself to make OTHERS more comfortable with my appearance, behaviour, etc.
Why should anyone have to do that?
EDIT: I realise that some folks strive to pass for safety and self-acceptance. To each their own. You feelings are valid. I am raising these questions, because I am genuinely curious about why these things exist - the gender binary, social constructs of beauty and gender, etc.
I have my own battles with my gender presentation daily. For a long time, I stressed passing until I questioned why it was so important to me. I truly want to hear/read from everyone else’s point of view. Please do not think that I am guilting anyone here.