If we define sexual orientation based on anatomy, as most people do, who would an intersex person be expected to be with in order to be heterosexual? We are destructive to heteronormativity, to the notion of “men and women”, even to ideas like “gay” and “lesbian” if we define sexual orientation purely by anatomy. So what’s next? Where do we go from here? And how do we get there without violating the bodies and identities of more intersex people?
This is why I talk about orientations based on gender, not genitals. Heterosexuality is the sexual attraction to people of a different gender, homosexuality is the sexual attraction to people of the same gender.