Often, I see the words “acceptance” and “tolerance” being used interchangeably. The LGBT community often talks of building a tolerant society, but it is by no means enough….
In his upcoming memoir, the columnist reveals he’s attracted to both men and women but doesn’t embrace the term bisexual.
Your mod here again. I’ve started a team on Etsy for bisexual/nonmonosexual folks since there wasn’t already one in existence. Please feel free to join! It’d be really awesome too have one group with all the nonmono folks who use Etsy.
All the best,
"assigned" is actually a term for intersex people, who were assigned a sex at birth by means of surgery. its a term that has been appropriated by the trans* community. it’s better to use the phrase "designated (female or male) at birth" to refer to trans* and nonbinary people!
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I should keep this in mind!
Fairly certain this isn’t true. I know for a fact that CAMAB was coined by trans women, and I’m willing to guess cutting off the C doesn’t make it someone else’s word.
To quote freedominwickedness “CAMAB and CAFAB were originally created by trans women and then intersex people started identifying with them and started saying they created them so that they wouldn’t be associated with trans women. So yeah, there are those who consider it appropriative, but it’s because they’re transmisogynists. Anyone can use CAXAB language, because everyone is coercively assigned a gender at birth (i.e. no one chooses the gender they’re assigned), although for some it is more coercive than for others.”
"defined" or "declared" was substituted to produce "DFAB" and "DMAB" and the objection then shifted to the "AB" part. At that point, the trans women involved who were in my circle of friends saw it as being an objection to trans women claiming they were assigned an incorrect gender at least at the earliest point in their lives and, possibly, at all.
Yeah, a few months ago we had this spate of people trying to take any words we used so all we’d be left with is “man” for camab trans people.
Like They wanted CAMAB, then AMAB, then DMAB. Someone did that last one like a day after I joked about it happening.
The thing that really gets me is how much people want to believe this. How badly they want to be “supporting” intersex (or any) people over trans people. Because nobody ever questions the idea that “assignment” refers exclusively to surgical alteration. I’ve seen people saying that the “assigned” in “assigned at birth” literally refers to surgery (how?), and therefore intersex people are the only people whose sex is assigned at birth.(via blue-author)
Defiition of Bisexual From BiNetUSA Media Guide
Bisexual, BiA person whose enduring physical, romantic and/or emotional attraction is to other people of various sexes and/or gender identities. Individuals may experience this attraction in differing ways and degrees over their lifetime.
NEW YORK — As transgender people strive to gain more acceptance and legal protections, they will soon have a hefty new resource to assist them — a 672-page book, written by scores of transgender contributors, that encompasses social history, gender politics and wide-ranging advice on health, law, relationships and many other matters.
Encyclopedic in scope, conversational in tone, and candid about complex sexual issues, the Oxford University Press book being released in mid-May is titled “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves” — a deliberate echo of a pioneering feminist health-resource book, “Our Bodies, Ourselves” that appeared more than 40 years ago
The new book’s editor, New York University psychiatrist Laura Erickson-Schroth, writes in the preface about reading her mother’s copy of “Our Bodies, Ourselves” as a 12-year-old.
"At a time when over 90 percent of physicians were men … it was an extremely daring and exciting thing to publish a book in which women taught other women about their bodies, their sexuality, and their rights," she wrote.
The goal for “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves,” she writes, was “to make it as radical as its predecessor” — an act of empowerment through which transgender people exert more control over the available information about their lives.
From conception to publication, the book has taken five years to produce. To ensure it reflected diverse viewpoints, the editors, authors and other collaborators held public forums across North America and conducted an online survey that attracted more than 3,000 responses. With more than 200 contributors, Erickson-Schroth described her task as “herding cats.”
"Our community is still conversing among itself about what the important issues are, what it means to be trans," said Jennifer Finney Boylan, an author and English professor at Colby College in Maine who wrote the book’s introduction. "Is it social, is it medical? Something very private, or something very public?"
The book’s chapters cover a wide range of topics, including race, religion, disabilities, employment, mental health, sexuality and parenting. There are mini-profiles of prominent transgender people from around the world, and analyses of gender-bending books and films, such as “Some Like it Hot” and “Tootsie.”
Its extensive glossary includes such terms as genderqueer, heteronormativity, omnisexual and transfeminism. “The terminology changes so quickly, you really can’t keep up,” said Erickson-Schroth.
The chapter on social transition — the aftermath of deciding to go public about a change in gender identity — contains detailed suggestions on how to consider a new name, wardrobe, hairstyle, even a manner of speaking. Transgender people shifting to a masculine identity can lower the pitch of their voices through taking testosterone; those seeking a feminine identity sometimes undergo speech therapy to develop a higher pitch.
The chapter on children was written by Aidan Key, a gender specialist in Seattle who runs support groups and conferences for families with children who are transgender or gender non-conforming.
Key, born a girl with an identical twin sister, began having gender-related doubts as far back as kindergarten, culminating in gender-reassignment surgery at the age of 33. His chapter abounds with suggestions for how parents should respond when one of their children — either verbally or through behavior — conveys that his or her gender identity is different from the one assigned at birth.
"One of the questions most commonly asked by parents, teachers and therapists is whether gender nonconformity could be a phase," Key writes. "The simplest answer is yes."
By Autumn Sandeen
LINK TW: rape, violence, transmisogyny, transphobia, slurs
Bisexuality is not Bi-sexuality: Pretending the word "bisexual" doesn’t exist is a tiny, trivial way of denying our legitimacy,
I feel really awkward when I see bisexuals call themselves “bi-sexual”
Yes, you would but might not quite understand why, because it’s a form of microaggression, a tiny small slur - like being bitten to death by gnats - practiced against bisexual people and the bisexual community. Here is some of what the UK’s Bisexual Index has to say about it:
Bisexuality is not Bi-sexuality Bisexuality is not a combination of heterosexuality and homosexuality. We’re not half formed or half committed. We’re whole.
We are not bi-sexual, we’re bisexual! The word is in the dictionary - it’s not two words put together. Pretending the word "bisexual" doesn’t exist is a tiny, trivial way of denying our legitimacy, but it still is one. After all, if what we have is two sexualities then maybe we should pick one and stick with it?
Have you ever met a bisexual who prefers to be a bi-sexual? That hyphen makes the stress longer, the pause audible. It’s a chance to dwell on the syllable "sex" straight after. But it’s not all about sex, and we don’t have two competing natures.
As you all could probably guess Big Gay Inc’s favorite Agony Auntie Dan Savage is a MAJOR practitioner this type of particular microagression against bisexuals, going so far as to add the hyphen to the words "biphobic" and "biphobia" too.
You can see him doing it right there in the first paragraphs of one of his current whines about how some of his best friends are bisexual and how the bisexual community and organizations are all just big ol’ meanies picking on poor little innocent him. *insert dramatic eye-roll here*
If you see someone doing this, (unless they are an innocent misled newbie or ESL person - in which case just kindly point out these two articles in a non-judgemental fashion) quickly run Far Far Away. It’s on purpose. It’s done to put you down and make you feel uncomfortable and unwanted, all while smiling in you face and pretending that they want to be your friend.
Bisexual - A person whose enduring physical, romantic and/or emotional attraction is to other people of various sexes and/or gender identities. Individuals may experience this attraction in differing ways and degrees over their lifetime.
Just a reminder, just because someone says that they "saw it on the internet" doesn’t make it true.
If you want to know the actual and accurate definition of “bisexual” always consult reputable bisexual academics, organizations and activists. There is a lot of misinformation and shoddy reporting floating around out there. A great deal of it deliberately spread by anti-LGBT and other biphobic/transphobic entities.
Divisions in the community, imposed from the outside — imposed by heterosexism and heteronormativity, imposed by heterosexual people in a heterocentric society, enabled by monosexual gay people and non-monosexual people who reject the community label because of what the heteronormative and monosexual people falsely claim it means — is a problem on an institutional and a personal level, as it disrupts the community and people who find themselves without a strong and stable community to come out into.
The word is not the problem.
The word is not the problem.
The word is not the problem.
The people who have invested their time, energy, and money into a schema that discredits and erases bisexuality in order to make themselves seem more acceptable to a culture that would shrug them off in an instant are the part of the problem that lets the haters keep on hating.
The Overculture that assimilates by trivializing differences and celebrating conformity is the problem."Bisexual and pansexual makes sense, bisexual or pansexual doesn’t. The inclusive definition of bisexual isn’t the update, it’s old-school — the exclusionary definition is the one being forced on the community by people who are outside the community and/or people who think they can avoid biphobia via self-erasure.”
We need labels because we do not want to be overridden by the default. And that includes labels for the default, instead of allowing people to insist that they are the norm and thus don’t need a label. Hence all the brouhaha over ‘cis,’ a term used to describe people who have a gender consistent with that assigned to them at birth. It’s perfectly reasonable to label those people, distinguishing them from trans people, who have genders that differ from those assigned to them at birth. Both groups of people need to be identified.
Homophobic epithets are so pervasive across our culture that most good-hearted and well-intentioned heterosexual people are sadly unaware of the psychological and physical toll that these words have on LGBTQ people.
Q:How do I discuss abortion in a gender neutral way? I don't want to be hurtful when I talk about abortion.
Thanks for asking!
Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People
Sentence: “I support a person’s right to choose.” - “People having on demand access to abortion in crucial.”
Problem Language: Pregnant Women/Woman
Gender Neutral Language: Pregnant Person/People
Sentence: “A pregnant person is most likely to abort in the first trimester.” - “Unsafe abortion is a leading killer of pregnant people.”
Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People who can become pregnant.
Sentence: “A person who can become pregnant should be able to seek reproductive health services without laws or stigma getting in the way.” - “Over 3/4 of people who can become pregnant do not have an abortion provider in their county.”
Problem Language: Woman/Women
Gender Neutral Language: Person/People this issue affects.
Sentence: “1 in 3 people this issue affects will have an abortion by age 40.” - “A person this issue affects may have difficulty affording an abortion.”
Problem Language: Mother
Gender Neutral Language: Pregnant Person/Parent
Sentence: “The chance of the pregnant person feeling regret after an abortion is actually statistically low.” - “The parent decided to terminate the pregnancy to take better care of their existing child.”
I did not include “People with uteruses” or “Person with a uterus” due to trans and Non-binary people telling me they find it triggering and reducing them to body parts. There’s plenty of alternatives, so let’s make our spaces safe and comfortable for everyone.
This should make it extremely clear what language to use and how to use it. If I have forgotten something or I am suggesting problematic language please let me know and I’ll make alterations.